*Throwback* The Blacker The Berry The Sweeter The Juice

So Ocassionally I will throw in some of my old blog posts for those who are new to following me and just because I think they are still relevant or "Classics" if you will. These will all be titled *Throwback*and the one below is one of my first ever Blog entries so I felt it only befitting that it also be my first *Throwback*....

"The Blacker the Berry the Sweeter the Juice...."

I seem to have been bamboozled, hoodwinked, led astray, run amuck... (Sorry I saw Malcolm X again yesterday). I thought that the quote of which this is titled was supposed to be true, but oh how wrong I was, at least if you were to look at the current state of my love life (sigh)...I used to hate the fact that I was dark skinned-always being teased about it, and of course there was the perpetual brainwashing by "the man" since the beginning of the middle passage. Then, as I was growing up, my mom used to say that same quote to me all the time to make me feel better about myself and at first I was like “yeah right, you’re lighter than I am so what do you know?”, Then as time moved on my perception of myself went from Black to (say it with me, you all know it….that’s right) CHOCOLATE! I mean, that sounds better right? Everyone likes chocolate right? (Except for Liz cause she’s allergic :)) WRONG!!! However, I have proof that it’s not just me getting the short end of the chocolate stick. Look at videos, movies, TV shows, etc. Next time count how many white, Latino, Asian, and light skinned black girls with long hair and light eyes you see as either main characters, or love interests or the “pretty video girl” and compare that to the number of dark skinned girls you see. If my math is correct, let's see…..That ratio should be about 15 to 1. Not to say that they don’t also deserve some credit but dangit we are cutie pies too. Now let me preface this by saying that most of us women are not just going to take any dude that comes along. I mean I would rather be by myself than put up with the foolishness that is clearly out there on all fronts…hmmm, that my explain why I am by myself…But I digress, unfortunately I have encountered and been approached by some stupid dudes in my life who think that the following statements are compliments: “Hey Black, Come here Black, What’s up Black” (fellas, calling a woman by her color is not good no matter what color she is-just a heads up), “You a pretty dark skinned girl” or my personal unfavorite, “Damn, you fine for a dark skinned girl”, now maybe I have missed it but is there some law written somewhere that says dark skinned people are supposed to be ugly?? Then the minute some guy starts talking to me and gets to know me, and asks a.) Why I don’t have a man, or b.) why somebody hasn’t “wifed” me yet, I could say “Well most guys aren’t ready for a real relationship with someone who will actually be committed to them”, or “Most guys are scared of a girl who could beat them at Basketball, Madden, and Jeopardy, as well as cook a 5 course meal, clean everything in the house, give a bomb massage, put them to sleep and go to work”, or “All the women who independent throw your hands up at meeeay” (you know the song). But instead I take the nice road and say “Dudes don’t want a Chocolate girl”. He then proceeds to debate that all the fellas do indeed want chocolate women like I’m not one and if that were the case based on my credentials the convo would be null and void cause I’d have a man right?? Well, just wanted to get that out, I’m still wondering what the date is when the “Blacker The Berry The Sweeter The Juice” quote will take affect…