INTENTIONS < ACTIONS

So you may have seen me do some type of Facebook or Twitter post about the title to this post and I decided that it warranted some further explanation. For those who didn’t see what I originally said (because you may not be following @FromMySoapbox on Twitter-shame on you lol) I said: My friends and I were talking and one of them said Intentions are less than Actions. I agreed with that and said if you don’t plan on making an action, then don’t tell me your intention. There is nothing more annoying and in some cases heartbreaking than to have someone tell you their intentions and then not follow it up with an action to make that intention come true. In my opinion all that does is make you look flaky, untrustworthy, and not a man/woman of your word-in other words someone I really don’t need in my life. What makes a person want to say something they really won’t do or follow up on? Why get someone’s hopes up ahead of time or God forbid tell them something AFTER you haven’t done what you intended to do and when it’s no longer relevant? You need an example? Ok... ”I meant to call you”, “I meant to give you that money”, “I meant to take you out”, “I was planning on sending you flowers”, “I was gonna cook for you”, “I intended to follow up on that”, I intended to blah, blah, blah. How about some real world hypothetical’s-Scenario 1: A person you know calls you and tells you that they will be at a certain location at a certain time and asks you to join them. You agree and when you go to the place they are not there and didn’t tell you that the plans changed or that they would be there at a different time. The intent was to be there but they didn’t follow through on the action...thus they get the less than sign pasted on their forehead. Scenario 2: Person 1 says: “hey, when you get here I’m going to take you out to dinner and for a walk by the water” Person 2 says: “Great sounds like a good time, I’m looking forward to it so I’ll call you when I get there” fast forward to the time/date of the outing and then Person 1 not only doesn’t do what they said but then proceeds to tell person 2 that they “decided not to” but didn’t have anything to replace it…What in the H-E- double hockey sticks kind of sense does that make? Off rip you are whack for not following through and most importantly you probably won’t get another chance with the person you shafted in the process- there’s that less than sign on the forehead again. Now to be clear, there is a big difference in circumstances changing and you having to adapt and you just deciding not to do something with no regard to someone else’s time, energy and feelings. Don’t get me wrong, this is not just in male/female relationships; this can be in friendships, business relationships and the like. It all boils down to people needing not to be so boastful or so full of themselves that they end up looking like selfish buttholes in the end. It’s also about respect, I would rather you do whatever it is that you are going to do, then tell me you are going to do something and then not do it. I’m sure we have all heard the statement “The road to hell is paved with good intentions”. People like to believe more of what they see and less of what they hear, so you can talk about what you plan to do or want to do until you are blue in the face but until you actually show me that you are doing it, frankly I don’t believe you. I got another example for you-say you dang near give someone a roadmap on what would make you happy or have a good time and they say they understand but when it comes time to show and prove they let you down like an anvil falling off a cliff-while their intent may have been for you to have a good time, their actions speak otherwise because they did nothing that you like and only stuff that they like. All in all I think it’s important for people to realize that what you say is nowhere near as important or telling as what you do-don’t talk about it, be about it and if you are gonna talk about it then you definitely better be about it, and if you aren’t up on either then be gone.

Peace.