Hating The Game...

I just wanted to pause in my thought provoking posts J to share something that may make you laugh or cry depending on how you look at it...I’ve been at both stages lol. Anyway, I think I am a magnet for random shenanigans. What makes me so mad about that is that one-I’m not being paid to at least have them be in a movie or something and two-I don’t send these shenanigan antics out into the Universe. I believe what goes around comes around so I’m a bit perturbed that I’m getting stuff I didn’t send around! We have all heard the adage-“Don’t hate the player, hate the game” and I admit I really, really hate the game. What game you say? The current dating game-why do I hate the game? Because it’s designed for good women/men who just want to be loved and cherished and hopefully one day married to fail. Let us first of all talk about the fact that it is called a “game” at all, at my age I don’t have time for games or people who want to play them. In fact I didn’t like or play games outside of a court or a house when I was younger so why do so now?  Now my brothers all like to tease me because I don’t bring dudes around them really and some of them say I’m too hard or picky or whatever but I just think it’s not kosher to introduce folks you aren’t really deep into something with to the family (especially since all 4 of my brothers are crazy as he%@).

Let me enlighten you to my last year or so of experiences (I swear I need my own show and I am not making this stuff up) and you can tell me if I’m not justified in hating the game. Let’s see…there was one guy who in the very first conversation said that it had been a minute since he pleased a woman and felt that it was about time to do so and if I wasn’t up for it I could introduce him to one of my friends-hang up immediately on that one. There was another guy who came at me strong and told me he would teach me something and then just fell off communication wise (quickly I may add), never followed through or lived up to what he put out there (we still talk occasionally and I knew based on some information I learned in those early conversations that it was not going to be serious but sheesh, if you say you are gonna do something then do it) -he was off the list quickly. Then there was the dude who came back from the past who also came super strong who was great at showing interest and calling, texting, etc. but not really ambitious for what he wanted in life, talked about sex ALL THE TIME (though he had already been told he wasn’t getting it) and extremely terrible at being able to plan and execute a date-even though in conversation I basically gave him a roadmap into what I would be interested in-he was also out of there.  There was another dude who I feel didn’t like the fact that I was a city girl and he a country boy and in turn did something I had previously told him I hated and that was for someone to disappear without warning-I’m grown enough to take something not working but what I cannot respect is a person who can’t tell you what the deal is-Another one bites the dust. There was also the dude who came hard about wanting to just take me out to have a good time or meeting up to shoot the breeze who was bad about communication (still is as he pops up randomly every now and then with a call or a text) and never followed through-out of there. Then there is the dude I’m super cool with who I used to feel but poses a conundrum because I figured out a couple years ago he would never be the one for me because I didn’t like the way certain things were handled and as we are not equally yoked in what we want in life (especially around marriage/kids-which are non-negotiable for me in a long term relationship) but is overall a good guy and good to know however I think he wants me pretty much for sex (which he also was told wasn’t going to happen)-shaking my head at that one. There was also the dude who came at me trying to holler but then proceeded to try to auction block me (height, weight, BMI (I’m exaggerating on this one), send me some pics in random outfits, etc.)Then, he proceeds to try to sell me stuff, shows up for the first date late with no call, and for whatever reason seems to not be able to wrap his head around using the phone for actual phone calls but texts all the time (though I previously told him I pretty much hate texting-which means he doesn’t listen well or he doesn’t care-both a no no)..Not looking too good here either. Finally, we have a crème de la crème which was a cute lil dude who came at me in a lounge, who I started talking to until he very calmly and easily told me after several conversations he was MARRIED-Pause and blank stare..Clearly that wasn’t going to work out.  

As you can see I have at least a little reason for hating the game and I can only wonder at this point-is it me? What exactly am I doing to attract the BS? I do think that sometimes people take my niceness for a weakness which is the LAST thing someone should do, and my trying to spare folks feelings end up getting mine hurt or at the very least agitated. Since I’m not one to go chasing after guys and believe in “He that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing” I’m trying to not take any of this stuff too seriously as I’m sure the right one for me will be all that I want and need and all this won’t matter but this is just getting ridiculous. At the end of the day, I know I am not the only one that these types of things happen to but it seems that everyone is just trying to get over and play a “game”. This makes it hard to discern the real from the fake and good guys from the bad ones-which all leads to half the time hating the player AND the game.

I give up...No Mas.
Peace.